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Every year, millions of people all over the world are victims of domestic violence. At WCC we are in the business of Investing In Lives thereby Making A Difference, touching one soul at a time. We take pleasure in creating social change, guided by optimism. We started work on Domestic Violence with a project called WOMEN IN TEARS and later extended this to a project called MEN2CRY.
Men2Cry is a project for men who have experienced abuse in their relationships. Many abused men find it difficult to come out openly about what they went through or going through in their relationships. This project provides a confidential avenue for men to come out and openly talk about it and more importantly, get the help required to deal with the effects of domestic violence inflicted on them by their wives) with the emphasis on the need to stop the cycle of violence that cuts through so many families and communities; to spark healing and joy in children who endure its impacts; to support survivors as they heal — and above all, through education, research and activism, to prevent violence from occurring in the first place. This clarion call is to be holistic in approach hence we are saying: NO TO VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN, MEN CHILDREN AND THE NEED TO PROTECT ONE ANOTHER LOOKING OUT FOR EACH OTHER. By taking a holistic and evidence-based approach, we are better able to deconstruct and prevent violence and this must be seen as a collective responsibility. ABUSE MUST NEVER BE TOLERATED.

When it comes to abuse, you believe there’s no way out. There is always help. There is always a way out.” ― Rev. Donna Mulvey

Signs of an abusive partner
An abuser can seem emotionally needy. You can get caught in a trap of catering to him, trying to fill a bottomless pit. But he’s not so much needy as entitled, so no matter how much you give him, it will never be enough. He will just keep coming up with more demands because he believes his needs are your responsibility, until you feel drained down to nothing.”
― Lundy Bancroft

Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out?
Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you?
Has he ever thrown an object that hit you or nearly did?
Has he ever held you down or grabbed you to restrain you?
Has he ever shoved, poked, or grabbed you?
Has he ever threatened to hurt you?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we can stop wondering whether he’ll ever be violent; he already has been.”
― Lundy Bancroft

I am living in hell from one day to the next. But there is nothing I can do to escape. I don’t know where I would go if I did. I feel utterly powerless, and that feeling is my prision. I entered of my own free will, I locked the door, and I threw away the key.”
― Haruki Murakami

In a healthy relationship, vulnerability is wonderful. It leads to increased intimacy and closer bonds. When a healthy person realizes that he or she hurt you, they feel remorse and they make amends. It’s safe to be honest. In an abusive system, vulnerability is dangerous. It’s considered a weakness, which acts as an invitation for more mistreatment. Abusive people feel a surge of power when they discover a weakness. They exploit it, using it to gain more power. Crying or complaining confirms that they’ve poked you in the right spot.”
― Christina Enevoldsen

In situations of captivity the perpetrator becomes the most powerful person in the life of the victim, and the psychology of the victim is shaped by the actions and beliefs of the perpetrator.”
― Judith Lewis Herman

Isolation
Monitoring or blocking phone calls, e-mails and social media accounts; telling a partner when and where they can and cannot go; preventing them from seeing friends and relatives; making no attempt to get on with their partner’s friends or
family; or shutting them in the house.
Breaking trust
Withholding important information from a partner; lying to them; being jealous; having other relationships; accusing their partner of flirting or having other relationships; or breaking promises and agreements.
Harassment
Regularly checking up on their partner, following them; not allowing them privacy by opening their post, going through their laptop, tablet, mobile, emails or social media accounts; constantly checking to see who has called them; or accompanying them everywhere they go.
Threats
Making angry gestures; using physical size to intimidate; shouting their partner down; using violent language; threatening to destroy a partner’s possessions; threatening to report them to the police, social services or the mental health team unless they comply with the perpetrator’s demands; pressurising a partner to use illegal substances; threatening to withhold medicines from a partner; threatening self-harm or suicide; deliberately scaring their partner; wielding a knife or gun; or threatening to kill or harm their partner, the children and/or family pets.
Sexual Violence
Forcing a partner to look at pornographic material; forcing them to perform sexual acts they do not wish to; forcing them to have sex when they don’t want it; or forcing them to have sex with other people.
Physical Violence
Any combination of restraint, hitting, pushing, shoving, pinching, slapping, punching, kicking, biting, pulling hair out, burning, holding by the neck or strangling.
Denial
All too often the perpetrator says the abuse isn’t happening, or their partner caused it by their so-called provocations. The perpetrator will often say they can’t control their anger, and then appear to be gentle and patient in public. They may cry and beg for forgiveness, saying the abuse or violent outburst will never happen again, but it does. Visit https://www.ncdv.org.uk for more information on signs of Domestic violence